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As adults, we need to teach YOUNG GIRLS the difference between:

A man who FLATTERS her and a man who COMPLIMENTS her

A man who SPENDS MONEY on her and a man who INVESTS in her

A man who views her as PROPERTY and a man who views her PROPERLY

A man who LUSTS after her and a man who LOVES her

A man who believes he is GOD’S GIFT to women and one who remembers WOMAN is GOD’S GIFT to MAN

And then we need to teach OUR YOUNG MEN to be that kind of MAN

This post originally appeared on Not Before Coffee

1. Many divorces and unhappy marriages have roots stemming from infatuation and sex interest only.

2. Most youth are not sure what real love is due largely in part by lack of example.

3. Age and maturity give no immunity of infatuation.

4. Teen marriages have twice the risk of ending in divorce.

5. Living together and having a sexual relationship before marriage has shown to create tougher times to adjust after marriage.

6. One-sided love won’t work.

7. The following people are far most likely to have good marriage:
– Your parents are happy in their marriage
– You had a happy childhood
– There was a lack of conflict with mother
– There was a lack of conflict with father
– Home discipline was firm but not harsh
– You had a strong attachment to your mother
– You had a strong attachment to your father
– Your parents were frank with you about sex
– Your childhood punishment was infrequent and mild
– You have an expectant, positive attitude toward sex that is free from disgust or distaste.

Even if all of these factors are negative, you can still build a good marriage. But you will have to work harder and be more careful when choosing a partner and mate.

8. Good Marriages need to have these five types of love:
– Strong sex interest: strong erotic feelings for each other
– Respect and admiration: hold each other in high regard
– Friendship and fellowship: have many things in common
– Self-giving devotion: love in spite of each other’s faults
– Affection: a shoulder to cry on when our burdens are too heavy to bear alone.

With role models like Tiger Woods, Brett Favre, Jesse James, Kim Kardashian, Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton and Snooki coupled with technology, it’s no wonder our morals and values as a society have completely tanked!

Over the last few years, primetime television has been gradually increasing our daily dose of lust, sex, smut, drugs and controversy to the point so many people are deafening to the little voice in our heads that tells us certain actions are just plain wrong.

Wake up people – we live in a world where women are obtaining wealth by shagging someone famous, luring them into text and phone exchanges and then threatening to or actually exposing them.

If you think I’m mistaken, take a stroll through Facebook or MySpace. Look at the language and photos of today’s teens! They cuss like worse then any sailor I’ve ever known. They don’t know the least about the concept “leave more to the imagination” when it comes to clothing and many are finding sport and entertainment in hurting or emotionally abusing their fellow classmates, friends and random strangers.

Those daily doses of deficient values are contributing to a society that’s just never good enough. Relationships are no longer sacred, they are disposable and replaceable – this goes for love, friends and relatives alike.

When over 50% of marriages end in divorce – there’s a problem people! When the average age at which a person becomes exposed to porn is EIGHT what ARE we to become? These eight-year-olds grown into adults who have a blurred concept of what real and meaningful intimacy is.

It saddens me to watch as we are grow more distant from recognizing the rewards and wealth we can gain in just making others smile. By always putting our loved ones first. When I was growing up and even into my early adulthood, I always thought of my actions and how they would impact those people I loved – making decisions with that one single factor helped me make wiser decisions, keep me out of trouble and off dangerous roads.

SelfLESSness is being replaced with selfISHness and people wonder WHY our world is so corrupt. Desires of the flesh are becoming stronger then desires of the heart with such strength that smart, intelligent and God fearing men are being sucked into the trenches of ill action and intent.

It’s SO obvious WHY people are NOT genuinely happy anymore. The grass is always greener someplace else. But what people FAIL to realize is taking care of, nurturing and fertilizing their own relationships will make them greenest of all.

The major lesson here is to keep in mind that with technology being what it is today – Everyone, everywhere, lives in a glass house and with the spite of one overly greedy person, those houses will shatter.

What do you think? Does technology make cheating easier? Does it place everyone in more fragile glass houses?

Are looking for advice on how to have a successful first date? Are you about to go out with a woman/man for the first time? Are you about to go on a date for the first time in years and feel that you are out of touch with what is expected?

This article is all about dating – offering tips and advice aimed at helping people who may have answered yes to one or more of the above questions.

There have been many different type of online dating sites for several years now. Probably since the internet was started in fact. These sites offer advise on what to talk about, what to wear and provide tips of where the actual date should or could take place.

Other types of dating site give people the opportunity to find their perfect match. This could be by viewing a number of photos and reading different profiles. Once you’ve found a profile that appeals to you, there is the chance to e-mail and even phone the person of interest. From here of the next step is the first date or meeting.

Many people have met their future husband/wife this way. With the amazing success rates that continue to grow, these type of dating sites are likely to be around for many years to come. 

I have a number of friends and relatives who have successfully met people through online dating. They feel that this way of meeting somebody is a lot less hassle than constantly going to bars and trying to find a partner that way. These women are not in truth the actual type of person they are after in any case. They like the fact that they can attempt to get to know the person via e-mail or phone before they have to agree to meet them.

As for the first date itself, this can be a daunting experience for some people. This is where a dating tips service can prove to be invaluable as the advice given can be of great benefit. The information provided comes from tried and tested previous successful experiences of dating, information which should also prove to be successful again.

Regardless, you should get out there and enjoy yourself. Some you will win, some you will lose. At the end of the day all you can do is give it your best shot and hope to win the ultimate prize.

What are some of the best dating tips you can offer up to someone trying to plan the best possible first date?

Have you ever been in love with someone who just does not love you?  Have you pierced yourself to death, trying to figure out just what you could do, how you could change, what you might say that would make that person fall in love with you?

Being in love with someone who doesn’t love you can be a miserable experience.  It can lead to self doubt, low self esteem, depression, anxiety and emotional baggage that can impact your future relationships.

eHow has a 12 point list on how to deal with unrequited love.  The only problem I see with this list is when a person is already in love with someone who doesn’t love them back – it’s tough to redirect the heart and break free from the love that’s already out of control.