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Single Parents Dating – Dr. Laura Has It All Wrong

Gayla — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 13:44:58 +0000

For much of my adult life; I’ve been a love her, hate her fan of Dr. Laura. My love for her began the first time I read Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives. I read this book following my divorce from my kids dad. I learned a few things, but relapsed into the unhealthier mode of relationships that women find themselves in these days.

Later, I read Ten Stupid Things Couples Do to Mess Up Their Relationships in hopes of being the best I could be in a relationship while motivating my significant other to be their best.

Each book delivered valuable lessons that can be introduced into real life. Whether you agree with Dr. Laura or only on some things, these books are worth reading.

The thing I disagree with Dr. Laura on is her advice to single mothers. She’s made it clear she doesn’t think single mother’s should date until their kids are at least 18-years-old.

I couldn’t disagree more.

If a mother makes the conscious decision not to date while raising her kids, I think she’s missing the boat on teaching her kids how to date, how to choose the right partner, and what loving relationships are like.

As a child of divorce, and as a mother who has been single, I see the value in the lessons these life situations present. Kids are a product of their environments. Kids will grow and act on the learned behaviors they were exposed to growing up.

People can teach better lessons with their lives than with their lips. Don’t miss the opportunity to teach and to lead by example.

Expose your children to happy, healthy, loving relationships
Expose your kids to being a person who commands respect
Expose your kids to the joys of romance
Expose your kids to taking a stand against being mistreated

There are so many examples I could add, but I think you get my point.

To suggest single parent’s refrain from dating or pursuing new relationships because the children didn’t ask to be children of divorce is unrealistic.

Should a single parent refrain from dating until their kids are grown? Or what lessons do you think kids could learn from their parents?

ManPlay – An Online Gay Dating Network

Gayla — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 15:13:48 +0000

In August 2010, the long-awaited release of ManPlay.com, a premiere online gay dating network destination was unveiled.

ManPlay has taken it’s seat among the most popular dating sites within the gay dating niche. It seems to have developed quite a reputation as the ‘where men meet men online’ place to be.

According to reports, ManPlay.com has thousands of new, global members joining daily but the members are primarily based in Australia, Canada, United Kingdom, United States .

ManPlay.com features chat rooms, message boards, virtual world for adult fun, adult-triple-x-theater and more.

Whether your in the market to find a long term match or simply play the field with the occasional local hookup – ManPlay has the potential to become the only dating site you’ll need. Create a ManPlay profile here

Do you have experience with ManPlay you’d like to share? Leave your comment below.

How to Handle Dating Rejection

Gayla — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 11:47:26 +0000

Rejection can be a painful event for many people. While some rejections may be irrational, the person ending the relationship usually has a reason that they don’t to be with someone anymore. It’s essential to learn from every relationship — this is the only way it’s possible to grow as a person.

The end of a relationship is a time for inner reflection. It’s important to take a survey of one’s life and see what steps need to be taken. Some people may feel that they are the victim during a rejection. It’s important to realize that a relationship is based off the actions of two people. While it’s impossible to change the actions and behaviors of the other person, there are often significant changes that one can make in their own life.

It’s important to provide time for oneself when a relationship ends. Since being single gives one a sense of freedom, it’s often possible to pursue activities and hobbies that weren’t possible when one was in a relationship. This could include an extreme sport like skydiving, to watching a TV show that few other people enjoy. It’s important to give oneself time to recover emotionally after any bad relationship.

It’s also a good idea to take a personal inventory after any type of rejection. A personal inventory can be extremely challenging for many people. Most people live in a sense of denial their entire lives. This inventory can include a self-assessment of one’s personality, finances, hobbies, and attractiveness. These are all areas it’s important to work on in order to make the next relationship work.

There is no such thing as ugly. Many people who think they are ugly simply have poor self esteem. While no one is born ugly, it’s possible to become ugly through a poor lifestyle. Obesity, smoking, alcoholism, and poor health are all self-induced diseases. They can turn a beautiful face into an ugly mug in only a few years. It’s important to stay in shape, eat healthy, and avoid negativity.

It’s also important to look at one’s personality to see if it was the reason for rejection. Many people aren’t attracted to people they consider needy, controlling, angry, or hateful. These are all personality traits it’s possible to improve. A therapist or mental health professional may be able to help one make the changes one needs in their lives.

The end of a relationship or a rejection can be a valuable time for learning about oneself, one’s community, and the lives of those in it.

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Facebook: A BIG Dating Don’t??

Gayla — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 02:05:51 +0000

Have you ever watched a relationship crumble right before your eyes, on Facebook?

First there’s a comment, then a snippy response – before you know it, it’s all out war and up go the status changes from In a Relationship to Single!

Regardless of how tacky it may seem, when emotion takes over, all tact and control is thrust out the window.

I’ve heard of a marriage that split up on Facebook – a 40-something-year-old man left his wife – Changed his status to “in a relationship” and began posting photos of his new girlfriend. About a month later, he updated his status yet again to “married” because he’d broken up with his girlfriend and was back with his wife.

How awkward is that? Can you even imagine how that must make the kids feel?

What do you think about people posting such personal information on Facebook?

Do you pay much attention to relationship status changes? And what about those times when your friends status goes from “married” to “it’s complicated?”

Online Dating – What’s Hot!

Have The Relationship You Want

Gayla — Sun, 30 Oct 2011 01:59:22 +0000

Regardless of whether you’re going on your first date or married for years, the Have The Relationship You Want ebook is your instruction manual for creating a deep and meaningful connection between you and your partner.

Get a sampling of what’s inside Have The Relationship You Want

Online Dating – What’s Hot!

Gayla — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 01:29:20 +0000

So tell me, how many of you have ever felt like this guy?

Not really a shocker, but an interesting statistic nonetheless… According to this survey, eighty-four percent said they wouldn’t have a problem meeting someone in real life who they originally connected with online.

Free dating site Meet Locals is similar to Facebook in design and navigation. They also offer a very cool video chat and cam feature that allows you to communicate one-on-one with your potential local partner.

Social Dating Meets Photo Sharing with Jazzed’s New iOS App, Which Includes a First-Of-Its-Kind Feature for Mobile Dating

LikeBright founders Nick Soman, Sonya Lai and Ron Lai (Sonya and Ron are siblings) say they want to make dating simple, social and safe for women, by letting them vouch for — and ask questions about — guys on Facebook. LikeBright provides a dating layer on Facebook to help women meet people through the people they trust.

Valuable Lessons to Teach Young Girls Now!

Gayla — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 11:39:00 +0000

As adults, we need to teach YOUNG GIRLS the difference between:

A man who FLATTERS her and a man who COMPLIMENTS her

A man who SPENDS MONEY on her and a man who INVESTS in her

A man who views her as PROPERTY and a man who views her PROPERLY

A man who LUSTS after her and a man who LOVES her

A man who believes he is GOD’S GIFT to women and one who remembers WOMAN is GOD’S GIFT to MAN

And then we need to teach OUR YOUNG MEN to be that kind of MAN

This post originally appeared on Not Before Coffee

Signs He’s Got a Cheating Heart & Progressing Toward an Affair

Gayla — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 11:59:25 +0000

According to Ashley Madison, 50 to 60 percent of men will engage in an affair outside of marriage at some point in their lives. The reasons and excuses are endless, but the signs of propensity for infidelity are usually the same.

Signs he’s about to have an affair?

Once quiet, he becomes a storyteller. He never leaves the house without an alibi. Frequently lies about the women he spends time with. Hasn’t cheated yet, but clearly preparing for the day he does.
Feels Trapped – He’s not even sure what happened. One moment he was happy with simple daily togetherness, next he feels caged and resents the lack of freedom. He may be terrified that if he stays in the current relationship, it will be the last person he ever has sex with.
Rather than condemning friends for cheating, he finds reasons to justify their actions.
Develops relationships with other women. He seeks out sympathetic women and tells them of his crumbling relationship or marriage. Emotional affairs are only a couple of drinks away from a full physical affair.
He keeps girlfriend or wife a secret – When he speaks to other women, he neglects to mention he’s in a relationship or married.
He has sexual thoughts of being with other women. When the mind starts to wander, it’s only a matter of time before the body follows. Often unable to perform with their partner without imagining she is someone else.
He relaxes the moral code and begins encouraging an open relationship (at least on his part). He may suggest threesomes, try to convince you that monogamy is overrated, or that very few creatures or cultures for that matter are monogamous, why should he be?
He searches for arousal elsewhere. He becomes incredibly drawn to porn or strip clubs. He’s simply not aroused by you anymore. Maybe he misses the spontaneity, the feeling of falling in love. On the rare occasions the two of you still have sex, he simply goes through the motions, rushes through or avoids foreplay altogether.
He becomes curious and starts exploring what opportunities might be out there. He checks out websites designed to meet his needs to cheat. MILF’s looking for an affair, lonely wives looking to cheat, the cries for NSA attention on Craigslist, etc. He begins searching names of old flames so he can recall the hot steamy sex they once had. It’s like watching mental porn where he’s the star. The women might be less attractive than his partner, but they have that new girlfriend smell.
He turns up the charm, collects phone numbers, secretly emails. He kicks up his bathing and grooming habits a notch or two. He’s using old pickup lines but with new confidence. This time he has a secure relationship to fall back on.
He begins placing himself in situations that make it easier to meet women. He begins making up excuses to work late, shops alone, joins clubs or the gym.

Do these signs sound familiar? These subtle, and often progressive changes in personality, actions or words could indicate a developing plan to cheat whether he realizes it or not.

It’s important to remember that any relationship worth saving can be saved through open, honest communication. Affairs, regardless of how tempting they may be, have the potential destroy relationships and those in them. Once trust is broken or lost, it can never be regained. And the process (or attempt) of regaining trust can be exhausting at best.

Dating Expert’s raving about “Blow Me” book

Gayla — Thu, 29 Sep 2011 00:03:17 +0000

So how does a single woman find the love of her life?

Author Lennie Ross addresses those stereotypes and more in Blow Me. The story of three single women—Skylar, Dawn, and Chloe—all hovering precariously close to forty, and stuck in a lifestyle that they have long outgrown. Aware that the women’s magazines of their youth sold them a false bill of goods about having it all—the amazing career, the baby, the house, the husband—each woman is desperate in her own way to achieve some sense of stability.

If you enjoy reading books that whisk you away to a world unlike your own, you’ll love Blow Me.

Online Dating: What Not to Write & Why No One Wants You

Gayla — Mon, 29 Aug 2011 22:39:47 +0000

Brenna Ehrlich and Andrea Bartz are the sarcastic brains behind humor blog and book "Stuff Hipsters Hate." When they’re not trolling Brooklyn for new material, Ehrlich works as a senior writer at MTV, and Bartz is a news editor at Psychology Today.

In a Netiquette CNN article this week, they offer 7 humorous email openers that are guaranteed to get you deleted immediately. They claim that even if someone finds you attractive, “ironic mustache and all,” a bad first email will completely ruin your chances at love.

Read the article here.

So now, let me ask you this – if you’re dating online, when it comes to email responses, what turns you off?