Here’s an interesting question for you Date1411 readers –

You’re going out with a guy that you have a strong physical attraction to and you’d like to continue with the relationship. The big problem he doesn’t know his strength and some things like grabbing the leg can actually hurt.

Whether it’s a smack on the butt, a pat on the back, a lame attempt at tickling, he’s just too heavy in his actions.

Do you tell him and try to teach the old dog new tricks or do you just break it off for fear that this pain might escalate into something entirely different?

Seriously, if he’s that heavy when playing, what would be like when he’s angry?

Thoughts?

You would think that dating widowers would be rewarding for the most part. As a woman, you wouldn’t feel you were being sized up to another woman and you wouldn’t have to deal with that woman being in your life, even if only occasional.

On the other hand, there are a number of women who have shared their experiences on just how risky dating a widower might be.

Have you ever had to compete with the memory of a ghost?

Something to think about!

Tom Blake shares a number of stories, both rewarding and risky by women who have dated or are involved with widowers.

How many of you check your horoscope or compare astrological signs before dating? Come on…raise your hands! I know you’re out there!

Hey, I did! I’ll admit it. I’ll be the first to stand up and say that it took me dating not 1 or 2 but SEVEN Gemini’s before I realized that my “Everything You Need to Know About Your Astrology Sign” book was right on the money! Cancers and Gemini’s do NOT mix!

Call me silly, but Seven Times of that book being right and I became a believer!

Want to know if you and your honey are a good match? Want to know if that date this weekend has potential?

Check these handy dandy little tools out:

Is it a Love Match

Is it a Great Sex Match?

Dating is complicated enough – so every little bit helps! Even when it’s something as silly as a little astrological match guide. Go ahead, try it! I bet you’ll be surprised!

While reading a popular advice column today, I stumbled on a question from a woman who is 35, overweight and never had sex. Her concern was wanting to know if she was so much of a freak that if she lost weight would her virginity be too much a problem for men to deal with.

The response to this woman was:

Umm, like, 100 percent. Not that you have to tell a guy at all, but really, for a guy “virgin” is to sex as “ocean-front property” is to real estate.

That’s left me wondering just how true this statement is and just how much like low income housing many of us women should feel like.

Guys? So tell us, what’s up with that?

The enormous difference between male and female sexual behavior may be explained, in animals at least, by a tiny organ in the nose rather than by any gender difference in brain circuitry.

So I guess this should prove that if a guy smells like he’s full of crapola, he’s not even close to gonna get lucky!

source

No matter how good a friend they are.

Never ever take for granted that your current significant other will be understanding of a friendship you have with an old flame!

“It’s just lunch” — “It’s just drinks” — “It’s just a movie” will NOT fly!

Sure, it may fly for a while, but buried somewhere beneath that understanding exterior lays an argument waiting to happen.

When you least expect it, that dinner/drinks or movie will be thrown up in your face like a bucket of ice water.

If it’s just lunch – drinks or a movie, there’s absolutely NO reason why your significant other should not be invited along. In fact, insist! You’ll be glad you did.

Don’t you agree?

Straight from the relationship professional himself – Dr. Phil

Internet pornography is a growing trend that has many people worried about their relationships. Is it cheating? And is it a "normal guy thing"? Here’s what Dr. Phil believes:

• It is not OK behavior. It is a perverse and ridiculous intrusion into your relationship. It is an insult, it is disloyal and it is cheating.
• Consider how it makes your partner feel. If it makes your partner feel ugly, hurt, deceived, lied to or inadequate, then it needs to stop. If it is eroding your relationship, it’s gone too far.
• Pornography isn’t real, it’s a fantasy. It’s makeup, beauty lenses, hair extensions, camera angles, lighting and silicone! It’s also somebody’s daughter who has taken a really, really wrong turn. She’s demeaning herself, debasing herself, humiliating herself and she’s being exploited by people who are funded by you. It is a sick, demented, twisted world. It’s not healthy, it’s not natural and it’s not normal.
• Viewing Internet pornography or engaging in cybersex is a short step to taking cheating to the next level.
• You need to tell your partner that viewing pornography is absolutely, unequivocally unacceptable in your relationship. Draw a line: Your partner needs to choose between the pornography or the relationship.

Ask yourself or your partner:

• Would you do it with your partner standing right there?
• Are you turning outside of your relationship to meet a need that should be met within the relationship? You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge, so find out if you or your partner have a problem.
• Do you justify the behavior by saying, "It’s harmless," "Everyone does it," or "It’s just the Internet"?
• Does it intrude on your relationship?
• Which is more important: pornography or your relationship?

One of the best sex and relationship columnists going, Dan Savage at Nerve responded to a gal the other day who was asking about engagement – talking engagement and moving in together.

You were discussing marriage at three months?

The fact that he would bring up marriage so early, and the fact that you didn’t laugh in his face, disqualifies you both from obtaining a marriage license. (Okay, it doesn’t — but it should.) Three months — eight months, sixteen months — is way too soon to be discussing marriage. Sure, you can allow yourself to be swept away by new love, you can crush out on each other, you can sheepishly admit that you’ve allowed yourself to daydream about marriage — so long as that admission is immediately followed by this statement: “But I realize it’s way too soon to even think about it seriously…” But you absolutely, positively should NOT be making plans to marry, small ceremonies or large, courthouse or St. Paul’s Cathedral, at eight f**king months; nor should you attempt to hold him — or anyone else — to a premature “commitment” to wed.

I’ll give – three months is awfully quick to be discussing marriage. Though I’ve been there, done that. I had a man want to put a ring on my finger in mere weeks – but I think that was more of a territorial thing than an “engagement” thing – but 16 months is far too long in my opinion.

I’ve always believed a year is a good timeframe to work with before becoming engaged or getting married. This allows the couple to process through all four seasons – you can see how your partner maneuvers through those seasons, observe the activities they enjoy during those times – how they handle the holidays – how they handle meeting your extended family and much more.

That’s not to say there are some relationships that can withstand an early engagement and commitment – because I know couples who married after a couple months of dating – and they’re still together 20+ years later.

As long as you’ve weathered some of the best and worst of times – seen each other at both worst and best, survived a long trip away together and have endured a crisis or two – then you might just have what it takes to endure marriage for the long haul.

It’s important that each person is honest about finances too. That being the biggest relationship killer – don’t ever expect love to be strong enough to survive a surprise credit score that hinges on the side of despair.

Every woman wants to be an object of desire. This doesn’t make a woman needy at all. It’s a normal part of being a woman and we all know that there’s something about ourselves that we would change IF we could! Nothing is perfect, especially our reflection.

Since we all feel there are deficiencies in our makeup, it’s probably a good time to pick up this unique female manual appears. The purpose of “How to be a Super Hot Woman” is to teach you the little secrets that make you a great temptress. If you always wanted to know how to make every man fall in love with you and treat you as a real princess this book is for you!

In this book you’ll also find:

• how to make him fall completely in love with you
• how to impress him so that he doesn’t want to have a look at another woman
• how to seduce him so that you are his only sexual fantasy
• how to influence him so that he wants to spend much time with you rather than with his friends
• how to affect him so that he’ll always be loving and tender with you
• how to keep the flame in his eyes forever
• and a lot of useful techniques for the woman who wants to be number one in everything they do

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There are a few indicators, which can help define what kind of a relationship you’re having. One of them is how the two of you sleep together — literally.

Check out the sleeping positions and tell me if there’s truth in them.

That last one on the right, hilarious!